13 Sex Drive Killers

13 Sex Drive Killers

Being sexually incapable of satisfying one's partner is one of the most disturbing thoughts for a relationship.

Its prolonged existence can permanently affect one's sexual drive, but it is easily curable in its early stages; one needs to address the issue and the associated causes. Let's talk about the common sex-drive killers. 

 1. Anxiety 

Chronic Anxiety & Stress can permanently damage your hormonal balance. For instance, when we are stressed, our body's dopamine level decreases, and our bloodstream's cortisol level increases. Apart from this, stress puts our body in the fight-and-flee condition, diminishing our brain's ability to participate in any leisure activity.  

Apart from lowering libido, chronic stress can even harm your menstrual cycle.  

Did you know that most sexologists consider the brain a crucial sex organ? The reason behind their consideration is its significant contribution to our sexual engagement. Therefore, if you have a busy mind while engaging in physical intimacy, then there are chances that you might not get aroused at all.  

2. Too Little Sleep 

According to Margaret Carlson, an American journalist, sleep is the new sex. Why? Our sleeping habits impact sex-drive as they are more interconnected than we think. While we sleep, our body goes through numerous biological changes and releases multiple hormones, such as dopamine, serotonin, and testosterone, crucial for good libido. 

As with any physical activity, a rested body increases performance. Less sleep, lack of proper sleep, maybe the culprit that decreases sex drive. Sleep apnea is a potential cause of a lack of adequate sleep and a lack of libido. Medical treatment may be needed for sleep apnea. 

3. Partner 

Sex is not a one-way path. Both partners need to be engaged. However, poor communications, lack of trust, a sense of betrayal, and repeated fighting and criticism can create a distance. One perfect solution for mutual conflict is good communication.  However, if that seems complicated and you have reached an impasse, a counselor can also prove very helpful. 

4. Alcohol 

The relationship between libido and alcohol is a little bit tricky. Initially, alcohol's inhibiting properties lower stress and anxiety, helping our body participate in physical intimacy. Moreover, as performance pressure is a big issue with most males today, alcohol, when consumed in less quantity, can also help surpass that complex.  

Now, when consumed in small quantities, alcohol affects our libido positively, but when its amount increases, it starts affecting our libido negatively.  

For instance, after consuming more alcohol, males start having erectile dysfunction, and women experience vaginal dryness, making it tough to carry on the romance and heat in bed 

Moreover, as sex is a mutual process, your partner's consent is also crucial for proper physical intimacy engagement. There is a great chance that your partner might not very much like your drinking habit—putting a damper on your sex drive.   

5. Having Kids 

We usually connect sex with privacy, subconsciously. And when it comes to parenting, it becomes difficult to carve out time for personal intimacy. However, it is imperative to take some time for sexual desire or intimacy. You can utilize the time when the baby is having a nap or is fast asleep. 

6. Medication 

Did you know that medication used for controlling depression and anxiety can kill your libido? Not only antidepressants but other drugs too. For instance, the medicines that prevent high blood pressure, antihistamines, birth control pills, and narcotic pain bills.    

Why does it happen? Let us understand from the example of the effects of high blood pressure medications. The medicine reduces the blood pressure in the nerves and hence reduces the stress on the heart, but in turn, it also reduces the flow of blood into the penis, which makes it hard to attain an erection. 

7. Poor Body Image 

In numerous cases, a negative body image affects an individual's self-esteem, affecting your sexual desire to a great extent. The first step towards a healthy sex life is to accept and love oneself. 

8. Obesity 

Obesity affects a large portion of the population of America. It can decrease the overall sexual drive and leads to low self-esteem Though exercises can help an individual keep a healthy weight, counseling can also help with a person's esteem issues. 

9. Erection Problems 

Erectile dysfunction (ED) can affect the ability to have intercourse and how a man feels about his ability to perform. There are many options available to treat ED, and your doctor can help find the option that is best for you and your partner. 

10. Low Testosterone 

Low testosterone levels in a man's body can affect his sexual performance.  Aging and medication are just a few of the reasons that a man's testosterone levels may be low. 

11. Depression 

Depression affects almost every aspect of your life, and that includes your sex drive. It not only kills sexual drive, but it also leads to erectile dysfunction. The best way out of this issue is counseling and communicating with your partner. 

12. Menopause 

Menopause may result in some physical changes in the genital area, such as dryness in the vagina, resulting in pain (Dyspareunia) and can result in a lack of sexual desire. Treatments are available for this, so you can once again resume your original sexual activity. 

13. Lack of Closeness 

Sex and love are two different things. However different they are, they work side by side. Without emotional engagement, sexual desire recedes. You can rev up your sex by enjoying your partner's company, getting out on a date, spending time together, and by understanding and communicating. 


Low libido or sexual drive is not a unique problem; many people suffer from the issue. However, if addressed in its beginning stages, it is easily curable.  Be aware of the signs, make the changes needed, and enjoy your sex life.